David is a local web developer, writer and photographer in San Francisco and currently operates out of the Castro. He enjoys photography, bike rides, yoga, Cher, and a good burrito.
He acts as editor of A Box of Paints, contributor to Brotogs, and can be followed @davidmc.
Vulnerability is the condition of being affected by something (usually actions, words, people). We are vulnerable all the time, but we feel it when we are actually being affected. The causes of such affection may change: example, if you have a cold you are more sensitive to your physical surroundings (temperature, etc.). If you are in love with a person, that person makes you feel vulnerable because of their ability to affect your feelings. We might say that we are always vulnerable, but we do not always deal with it. In a sentence: Vulnerability is the reality that everything we are and know about ourselves and the world is not stable. Confronting this can be traumatic, but I think it could be much healthier in the long term. What do you think?
*condition of being ABLE to be affected by something… usually if that affect is especially affecting, if that makes any sense…
I love you
Vulnerability is when you walk into the world without any armor, any barriers, any protection from the possibile negatives that can batter your ego. It is the ability to be completely real, to walk bare and know that you can get hurt. It is the only way to truly feel the world. It is to show your weaknesses and faults, your problems, your guilt, your shame. It is to let others realize you and to let you realize yourself.
Realizing yourself is one of the scariest things in the world. When you walk without armor, how do your recover from the blows life gives you?
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. With (or without) enough love and support around us we dig deeper in times of need. After a few blows you learn to block, to bob and weave. Soon enough most blows don’t land or don’t hurt.
That said, beautiful people like you lifted me at a vulnerable time. Leaving for SF and then leaving SF was hard. Really F****ng hard. Beautiful people at Bootcamp meant the blows healed quick. Love you guys.